Whenever we have decisions to make, there’s always an angel and a devil that appear before us. This demon exists in many different forms, to hinder you from doing the correct thing or doing things the correct way. The angel would then try to persuade you back to the correct way of doing things.
The angel and demons in our lives face a constant struggle to triumph over the other. The different between a successful person and an unsuccessful one lies in whether he or she succumbs more often to the devil, or whether the angel in him or her is the stronger figure. We take out the angel and devil from the picture, and we have a very important conclusion.
ATTITUDE – is the one that ultimately makes the difference and distinction between the successful and the unsuccessful person.
Knowing that attitude makes the difference does not guarantee you success. The devils will constantly lure you, tempting you to take the easy way out, offering you with transient solutions to problems. Therefore, it is very important to familiarize with these devils, lest we fall prey to them.
One such devils, is procrastination. Procrastination is one of the reasons why people fail. Procrastination usually teams up with another devil, Fear, to assert more influence on our thinking. For example, one refuses to do work, because the work is seemingly too difficult (fear) and therefore he procrastinates. Whenever, the angel reminds him of work to be done, fear would say, “it’s too difficult” and procrastination would say “you can always leave it for another time”. The above illustrates a very common psychological battle we fight against ourselves. We often procrastinate because we feel that the work is too difficult or too cumbersome. For certain things like schoolwork and job work, we often end up realizing that the work would eventually have to be done and that procrastinating just leaves us with lesser time to finish up our work.
For others, it might be an idea, a business opportunity. But we often worry too much and fear too much, despite rigorous planning. Now, I would just like to highlight, it is important to plan before putting an idea into action, but it is even more important to be confident of those plans and not plan and chicken out. In other words, if enough planning was done and contingency plans have been made, what is left is to execute it confidently with a determined mindset and not allow fear and procrastination to hinder the plan.
Fear often revisits and this is especially true during setback and failures. However, a determined attitude (it has to be rational and according to plan as well!) would always keep fear at bay and keep you focused on the task.
One who is determined and who has strong believe in what he/she does would never allow problems and setbacks to hinder his/her goals. Success comes from identifying problems and effectively handling problems, not blaming failure on the problems faced. And most importantly, they do not give up. They simply continue trying and trying, so that every obstacle they conquer brings them closer to success.
Thomas Edison is one very good example. He tested all kinds of materials because he was determined to create light. He took pride in his work and would patent his prototypes. Indeed, one fine day, he finally made the filament glow and the light bulb was born. The light bulbs we use today are much different from the ones he invented in the past. However, it was his discovery that enabled us to convert electrical power into light, and his invention the paved the way for the modern light bulb which are brighter, more efficient and produce lesser heat. He eventually prevailed, and his perseverance and determination eventually paid off.
In all, maintaining a positive attitude, maintain focus on your goals and achieving it with fortitude and determination is a formula for success. Oh, and remember to constantly keep check of the devils and keep them out of your meaningful and purposeful life!
Wednesday, February 10, 2010
Sunday, January 24, 2010
Simple Financial Planning
When I first started my brokerage account, I was 19 years old. I knew little about the stock market and I knew little about trading strategies. My parents were strongly against me trading stocks and securities, but they eventually realized that the trading could be a good, albeit hard, way to learn about finance.
Learning how to invest taught me how to take calculated risks and most of all, it made me want to make money! Like people always say, money can’t buy you the world, but without money, you can’t buy a single thing in the world. So indeed, money isn’t the most important thing in the world, but it is one of the more important ones.
From the place where I come from, if you’re a young average male (means your Dad doesn’t have millions so much that you have enough spare cash to burn), you’d probably be in-debt due to school fees before you even get started working.
In such an environment, if you’re a guy, you’d probably be starting to feel the importance of money by the time you’re 21. As they say, females can always marry a rich man and get a lifetime ticket to riches (although it is not happening much nowadays), males can seldom say the same. As the male, you’d probably be the one making the money (and the decision) in a relationship.
Many are putting marriage on the KIV shelf because they simply do not have enough money to get married. Imagine, study debts, the cost of marriage and the cost of housing. Marriage would most probably bring about kids and the cost and commitment of having children.
Men should starting being financially independent at a young age, and by doing so means we got to start pro-actively learn how to make money work from a young age. This may include reading up and understanding how the different markets work, taking up lessons on entrepreneurship understanding how making calculated risk can give greater returns.
Please don’t get me wrong, I am not advocating risky investments. I am just highlighting the importance of investments. There are so many kinds of them from risky ones like forex, stocks and futures up to almost risk free bonds and fix deposits. It is up to the individual to analyze and decide what risk level he is comfortable with is and the possible returns such investments can yield.
Start learning the importance of investing young and be pro-active in expanding your portfolio as you grow older. This will ensure that you will be more financial prudent and you will make decisions (especially those that will require a large sum of money) better, because you understand how your money is working for you.
Learning how to invest taught me how to take calculated risks and most of all, it made me want to make money! Like people always say, money can’t buy you the world, but without money, you can’t buy a single thing in the world. So indeed, money isn’t the most important thing in the world, but it is one of the more important ones.
From the place where I come from, if you’re a young average male (means your Dad doesn’t have millions so much that you have enough spare cash to burn), you’d probably be in-debt due to school fees before you even get started working.
In such an environment, if you’re a guy, you’d probably be starting to feel the importance of money by the time you’re 21. As they say, females can always marry a rich man and get a lifetime ticket to riches (although it is not happening much nowadays), males can seldom say the same. As the male, you’d probably be the one making the money (and the decision) in a relationship.
Many are putting marriage on the KIV shelf because they simply do not have enough money to get married. Imagine, study debts, the cost of marriage and the cost of housing. Marriage would most probably bring about kids and the cost and commitment of having children.
Men should starting being financially independent at a young age, and by doing so means we got to start pro-actively learn how to make money work from a young age. This may include reading up and understanding how the different markets work, taking up lessons on entrepreneurship understanding how making calculated risk can give greater returns.
Please don’t get me wrong, I am not advocating risky investments. I am just highlighting the importance of investments. There are so many kinds of them from risky ones like forex, stocks and futures up to almost risk free bonds and fix deposits. It is up to the individual to analyze and decide what risk level he is comfortable with is and the possible returns such investments can yield.
Start learning the importance of investing young and be pro-active in expanding your portfolio as you grow older. This will ensure that you will be more financial prudent and you will make decisions (especially those that will require a large sum of money) better, because you understand how your money is working for you.
Saturday, January 16, 2010
Importance of interpersonal skills
Joe recently went to a party which was not very enjoyable because he hardly anyone spoke to him. Lacking the necessary interpersonal skills, he curled up liken a hermit crab, chilling at a corner of the room. No one did and he was the loser. Being frightened of initiating conversation was the cause of him being ignored. Sounds familiar? Have you always wanted to walk into a room being sure of yourself, lifting up the chin of yours with confidence, being able to start a conversation?
Interpersonal skills are important in life but sadly they do not come naturally. Blame on our Asian upbringing, many of us are influence by the belief of keeping the opinion to oneself and avoid expression to a certain extent to avoid conflict. Our inner feelings about ourselves, our level of confidence and degree of interest in others are shaped by the things we see and hear since the day we see light. When such skills are missing in the home, group or office, it can lead to loneliness, frustration, non-cooperation and substandard service.
Shy people dread any form of interactions, projecting an unfavorable image of themselves or take any interest in others. The focus is always on them to seek validation from others. However the truth about such a skill is that you will need to put them to use, take the step of faith and practice, practice and practice. Without it, the result might be unnecessary tension and fear which leads to missed opportunities in life be it securing the job interview or hooking up the eye candy.
Having positive interpersonal skills increases the productivity of any company since the number of conflicts is reduced. In informal situations, it allows communication to be easy and comfortable. People with good interpersonal skills can generally control the feelings that emerge in difficult situations and respond appropriately, instead of being overwhelmed by emotion. They tend to be easily recognized by their superiors and eventually take up leadership posts.
To be successful in things we do in life, one aspect we should never neglect or give little priority to is definitely interpersonal skills.
Joe recently went to a party which was not very enjoyable because he hardly anyone spoke to him. Lacking the necessary interpersonal skills, he curled up liken a hermit crab, chilling at a corner of the room. No one did and he was the loser. Being frightened of initiating conversation was the cause of him being ignored. Sounds familiar? Have you always wanted to walk into a room being sure of yourself, lifting up the chin of yours with confidence, being able to start a conversation?
Interpersonal skills are important in life but sadly they do not come naturally. Blame on our Asian upbringing, many of us are influence by the belief of keeping the opinion to oneself and avoid expression to a certain extent to avoid conflict. Our inner feelings about ourselves, our level of confidence and degree of interest in others are shaped by the things we see and hear since the day we see light. When such skills are missing in the home, group or office, it can lead to loneliness, frustration, non-cooperation and substandard service.
Shy people dread any form of interactions, projecting an unfavorable image of themselves or take any interest in others. The focus is always on them to seek validation from others. However the truth about such a skill is that you will need to put them to use, take the step of faith and practice, practice and practice. Without it, the result might be unnecessary tension and fear which leads to missed opportunities in life be it securing the job interview or hooking up the eye candy.
Having positive interpersonal skills increases the productivity of any company since the number of conflicts is reduced. In informal situations, it allows communication to be easy and comfortable. People with good interpersonal skills can generally control the feelings that emerge in difficult situations and respond appropriately, instead of being overwhelmed by emotion. They tend to be easily recognized by their superiors and eventually take up leadership posts.
To be successful in things we do in life, one aspect we should never neglect or give little priority to is definitely interpersonal skills.
Sunday, January 10, 2010
Turn-On Buttons (Attractiveness)
Attraction.
I first learnt the word attraction from my primary school teacher. Unlike poles of magnets attract one another. But unlike the attraction that the unlike poles of a magnet have for one another, the different gender of humans tend to be a little more tricky and difficult for some male individuals.
Remember in the previous post I mentioned certain “Mr. Nice Guy” not being able to get his dream girl, even though he’s got a good character and average looks, while the jerks around him seems to get the (pretty) girls? Well, our Mr. Nice Guy here is not alone.
Just think about the people around you, how many of those male, who are very nice individuals, do not have a girlfriend by choice? How about those jerks who treat their girlfriends like dirt? I am sure there are plenty of examples you can quote. Maybe you’re one of those Mr. Nice Guys around, who those girls around don’t appreciate (YEAH, it’s their loss).
Ok, let’s just move away from this discussion about the good guys drooling while the jerk gets the babe and move on to something more interesting, something more about you and me.
Now ask yourself guys, what makes a girl attractive to you? It could be looks, a sporty image, a nurturing and motherly character or other things that we guys usually associate with desirable girls. Certain girls who are able to attract us with such traits, looks being the usual case, we start to have a crush on them. The crush slowly develops into liking and subsequently into love.
The very same way, girls start by having a small attraction towards guys, it slowly develops into a liking and as their dependence on the guy grows, she starts to fall in love with him. The key, however, lies in the attraction.
Below are 3 things men believe females are attracted to.
Looks
Money
Popularity
However, this is more not the case most of the time. Having the looks, money, or popularity gives you an advantage, but it does not guarantee you success in your pursuit of a female. What the females are looking for are men who desire the 3 factors mentioned above. Men who desire to be better-looking, richer and more popular are men with goals and this is indeed what the females are looking for. If you show them that you constantly strive to do better in these 3 aspects of your life, they are bound to be more attracted to you.
Besides, females are also looking for males who are able to give them security and protection. By showing them that you can provide them a sense of security and protection, you will become more desirable, thus making you more attractive to females.
The article is not adequate to cover all that is needed to make you a more attractive male. In order to do so, you need to think about how you are going to improve these 3 aspects of your life, as well as think about how you can go about in your actions and words to show the females YOU ARE SOMEONE who can provide them with security and protection. Only then, will they be attracted you. Please feel free to direct any queries to me at fortiusmale@yahoo.com and I’ll be very glad to answer them.
Good luck guys!
I first learnt the word attraction from my primary school teacher. Unlike poles of magnets attract one another. But unlike the attraction that the unlike poles of a magnet have for one another, the different gender of humans tend to be a little more tricky and difficult for some male individuals.
Remember in the previous post I mentioned certain “Mr. Nice Guy” not being able to get his dream girl, even though he’s got a good character and average looks, while the jerks around him seems to get the (pretty) girls? Well, our Mr. Nice Guy here is not alone.
Just think about the people around you, how many of those male, who are very nice individuals, do not have a girlfriend by choice? How about those jerks who treat their girlfriends like dirt? I am sure there are plenty of examples you can quote. Maybe you’re one of those Mr. Nice Guys around, who those girls around don’t appreciate (YEAH, it’s their loss).
Ok, let’s just move away from this discussion about the good guys drooling while the jerk gets the babe and move on to something more interesting, something more about you and me.
Now ask yourself guys, what makes a girl attractive to you? It could be looks, a sporty image, a nurturing and motherly character or other things that we guys usually associate with desirable girls. Certain girls who are able to attract us with such traits, looks being the usual case, we start to have a crush on them. The crush slowly develops into liking and subsequently into love.
The very same way, girls start by having a small attraction towards guys, it slowly develops into a liking and as their dependence on the guy grows, she starts to fall in love with him. The key, however, lies in the attraction.
Below are 3 things men believe females are attracted to.
Looks
Money
Popularity
However, this is more not the case most of the time. Having the looks, money, or popularity gives you an advantage, but it does not guarantee you success in your pursuit of a female. What the females are looking for are men who desire the 3 factors mentioned above. Men who desire to be better-looking, richer and more popular are men with goals and this is indeed what the females are looking for. If you show them that you constantly strive to do better in these 3 aspects of your life, they are bound to be more attracted to you.
Besides, females are also looking for males who are able to give them security and protection. By showing them that you can provide them a sense of security and protection, you will become more desirable, thus making you more attractive to females.
The article is not adequate to cover all that is needed to make you a more attractive male. In order to do so, you need to think about how you are going to improve these 3 aspects of your life, as well as think about how you can go about in your actions and words to show the females YOU ARE SOMEONE who can provide them with security and protection. Only then, will they be attracted you. Please feel free to direct any queries to me at fortiusmale@yahoo.com and I’ll be very glad to answer them.
Good luck guys!
Wednesday, January 6, 2010
The 3 Things That Contributes to Happiness
Ever sat down and thought that there is nothing special in your life and want to make it better?
Ever wondered why you are so much better looking but that geek/scourge is a better girl getter?
Do you have BIG goals in life you want to achieve, but you're nowhere near the finish?
Have you wanted to look good, fit and healthy?
If you've said YES to one of those, it NEVER, I repeat, NEVER, means you're a loser. You're only loser when you know what's wrong with your life and you do not make attempts to change it. At FortiusMale we're dedicated to create an online community for males to help each other improve and get better.
I would want to propose 3 things in life that contribute to one's happiness, namely, having good interpersonal relationships, setting lifelong goals and thirdly, keeping oneself fit and healthy.
Having good interpersonal relationships may seem easy for some guys, but believe or not, it is the hardest of the three described above.
It's not about having friends, its about making friends.
In this world, it is important to make friends. As the old saying goes, "No man is a an island" and indeed we make friends every day in the course of our lives. It is important to have a good mix of female and male friends around you. In times of need it is often surprising to find a friend rendering his/her help, and that is often very heartwarming.
It is also very important for us males, to find the correct partner in life. Finding the correct female in your life, will find her supporting you in all aspect of your life, especially in your career. I quote from a famous Chinese saying "behind every successful man lies a woman (who would give him her support)". The woman behind the successful man, takes charge of domestic affairs while the man can concentrate on his work. In life, where failures are inevitable, the supportive woman sticks with her man and continues to support him, spurring on to make a comeback.
To begin with, you need to find the correct girl, date her, proceed on to getting married, having kids and creating a happy family. However, usually it is the case of the male not being able to find a girlfriend, less to say, the correct woman/girl whom he can spend his life with. It is not uncommon to hear laments such as "I can't seem to get a girlfriend", "No girl would like me".
Even more shocking to note, it is usually the best guys (in personality) who always find themselves in the wrong end of a relationship. The case is also true for the reverse. The best females always find themselves meeting the "bad" guys, or in another words, the "bad" guys always gets the "good" girls.
What do these "bad" guys have, that makes them so interesting to the female, while the other decent males watches on in jealousy? It can be all attributed to the lack of appeal that such males exhibits to females. In a separate post, which is titled "The Turned-on Button", we will feature a more in-depth discuss why certain males lack such appeal and why certain male have overwhelming of such appeal.
However, to find the perfect girlfriend/mate, it is always important to have a pool of friends, both male and female, to keep your social circle healthy. Besides, having a large number of female friends also means that you will be able to give yourself more options, and thus a higher probability of finding the correct partner for life.
Males friends are also very important. They are usually the ones whom you can count on especially at the work place. The confidence of having the ability to make friends, would usually turn out to be a great boost for one's leadership skills. This is often the case, people who can mingle well and makes friends easily usually are good leaders, when called upon to lead.
Being able to make friends effectively, is a good confidence booster for males, and it often leads to a higher level of self fulfilment. This will in turn lead to happiness. Learning how to have a way with girls is also one of those skills which other males envy. Possessing such skills would give you an aura of superiority over your other male friends, boosting self confidence making one happier.
HAVE GOALS YOU WANT TO ACHIEVE!
Having Lifelong Goals in life also plays an integral part in one's overall happiness. Imagine a life without goals. Would anyone be happy if they were to live without goals? I certainly doubt so.
Setting lifelong goals would mean to have achievable goals and meeting those goals and expectations one set for oneself. Meeting goals and expectations (especially self-expectation) can be a very joyous affair for the heart. Happiness can be realised from the accomplishment of goals and target, one sets for himself.
At FortiusMale, we encourage males to set Lifelong Goals as well as long term financial goals and show how males can alter they psyche, change their mindsets, to help achieve their goals more effectively. HAVING A POSITIVE AND CORRECT MINDSET, is a very important step to achieve goals in life.
YOU MAY HAVE IT ALL, BUT...
Having all the power and riches in the world alone is not enough with health. Health is the most important of all 3 factors discussed. Without health, we will never be able to enjoy the riches and the power.
That's why at FortiusMale, we encourage males to fit themselves physically and mental fit. By staying stronger, fitter, better and healthier, only will you be able to enjoy the fruits of your labour.
Staying healthy, both physically and mentally, we will be prepared to meet challenges that we face daily. Being in the pink of health would also mean you'll get tired less easily and fall ill less easily, enabling you to concentrate better in your daily routine with interruptions.
Keeping oneself physically fit also brings about the benefit of having a good physique. With it, you are able to wear certain fashion which you never could wear. Awareness for the increase in self confidence will definately give you the feel-good factor.
Once you have mastered all the three factors, happiness and fufillment will be sure to follow through the process. NEVER PROCASTINATE! Today is the day to begin. Start by thinking how you can go about achieving these 3 things in your life.
Do check out the blog for more updates. If you have any queries or comments please feel free to drop a comment or mail us at fortiusmale@yahoo.com
Ever wondered why you are so much better looking but that geek/scourge is a better girl getter?
Do you have BIG goals in life you want to achieve, but you're nowhere near the finish?
Have you wanted to look good, fit and healthy?
If you've said YES to one of those, it NEVER, I repeat, NEVER, means you're a loser. You're only loser when you know what's wrong with your life and you do not make attempts to change it. At FortiusMale we're dedicated to create an online community for males to help each other improve and get better.
I would want to propose 3 things in life that contribute to one's happiness, namely, having good interpersonal relationships, setting lifelong goals and thirdly, keeping oneself fit and healthy.
Having good interpersonal relationships may seem easy for some guys, but believe or not, it is the hardest of the three described above.
It's not about having friends, its about making friends.
In this world, it is important to make friends. As the old saying goes, "No man is a an island" and indeed we make friends every day in the course of our lives. It is important to have a good mix of female and male friends around you. In times of need it is often surprising to find a friend rendering his/her help, and that is often very heartwarming.
It is also very important for us males, to find the correct partner in life. Finding the correct female in your life, will find her supporting you in all aspect of your life, especially in your career. I quote from a famous Chinese saying "behind every successful man lies a woman (who would give him her support)". The woman behind the successful man, takes charge of domestic affairs while the man can concentrate on his work. In life, where failures are inevitable, the supportive woman sticks with her man and continues to support him, spurring on to make a comeback.
To begin with, you need to find the correct girl, date her, proceed on to getting married, having kids and creating a happy family. However, usually it is the case of the male not being able to find a girlfriend, less to say, the correct woman/girl whom he can spend his life with. It is not uncommon to hear laments such as "I can't seem to get a girlfriend", "No girl would like me".
Even more shocking to note, it is usually the best guys (in personality) who always find themselves in the wrong end of a relationship. The case is also true for the reverse. The best females always find themselves meeting the "bad" guys, or in another words, the "bad" guys always gets the "good" girls.
What do these "bad" guys have, that makes them so interesting to the female, while the other decent males watches on in jealousy? It can be all attributed to the lack of appeal that such males exhibits to females. In a separate post, which is titled "The Turned-on Button", we will feature a more in-depth discuss why certain males lack such appeal and why certain male have overwhelming of such appeal.
However, to find the perfect girlfriend/mate, it is always important to have a pool of friends, both male and female, to keep your social circle healthy. Besides, having a large number of female friends also means that you will be able to give yourself more options, and thus a higher probability of finding the correct partner for life.
Males friends are also very important. They are usually the ones whom you can count on especially at the work place. The confidence of having the ability to make friends, would usually turn out to be a great boost for one's leadership skills. This is often the case, people who can mingle well and makes friends easily usually are good leaders, when called upon to lead.
Being able to make friends effectively, is a good confidence booster for males, and it often leads to a higher level of self fulfilment. This will in turn lead to happiness. Learning how to have a way with girls is also one of those skills which other males envy. Possessing such skills would give you an aura of superiority over your other male friends, boosting self confidence making one happier.
HAVE GOALS YOU WANT TO ACHIEVE!
Having Lifelong Goals in life also plays an integral part in one's overall happiness. Imagine a life without goals. Would anyone be happy if they were to live without goals? I certainly doubt so.
Setting lifelong goals would mean to have achievable goals and meeting those goals and expectations one set for oneself. Meeting goals and expectations (especially self-expectation) can be a very joyous affair for the heart. Happiness can be realised from the accomplishment of goals and target, one sets for himself.
At FortiusMale, we encourage males to set Lifelong Goals as well as long term financial goals and show how males can alter they psyche, change their mindsets, to help achieve their goals more effectively. HAVING A POSITIVE AND CORRECT MINDSET, is a very important step to achieve goals in life.
YOU MAY HAVE IT ALL, BUT...
Having all the power and riches in the world alone is not enough with health. Health is the most important of all 3 factors discussed. Without health, we will never be able to enjoy the riches and the power.
That's why at FortiusMale, we encourage males to fit themselves physically and mental fit. By staying stronger, fitter, better and healthier, only will you be able to enjoy the fruits of your labour.
Staying healthy, both physically and mentally, we will be prepared to meet challenges that we face daily. Being in the pink of health would also mean you'll get tired less easily and fall ill less easily, enabling you to concentrate better in your daily routine with interruptions.
Keeping oneself physically fit also brings about the benefit of having a good physique. With it, you are able to wear certain fashion which you never could wear. Awareness for the increase in self confidence will definately give you the feel-good factor.
Once you have mastered all the three factors, happiness and fufillment will be sure to follow through the process. NEVER PROCASTINATE! Today is the day to begin. Start by thinking how you can go about achieving these 3 things in your life.
Do check out the blog for more updates. If you have any queries or comments please feel free to drop a comment or mail us at fortiusmale@yahoo.com
Tuesday, January 5, 2010
What Is FortiusMale?
FortiusMale is a brand name synonymous with the development of stronger men. FortiusMale is dedicated to male individuals who are constantly seeking to improve themselves, for the male achiever and achiever-to-be.
At FortiusMale, we aim to become an online sharing community for male individuals who wants to improve 3 important parts of their lives:
RELATIONSHIPS
LIFELONG GOALS
HEALTH & FITNESS
We hope to be your partner, for life.
FortiusMale is a brand name synonymous with the development of stronger men. FortiusMale is dedicated to male individuals who are constantly seeking to improve themselves, for the male achiever and achiever-to-be.
At FortiusMale, we aim to become an online sharing community for male individuals who wants to improve 3 important parts of their lives:
RELATIONSHIPS
LIFELONG GOALS
HEALTH & FITNESS
We hope to be your partner, for life.
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