The 3 Things That Contributes to Happiness

Ever sat down and thought that there is nothing special in your life and want to make it better?

Ever wondered why you are so much better looking but that geek/scourge is a better girl getter?

Do you have BIG goals in life you want to achieve, but you're nowhere near the finish?

Have you wanted to look good, fit and healthy?

If you've said YES to one of those, it NEVER, I repeat, NEVER, means you're a loser. You're only loser when you know what's wrong with your life and you do not make attempts to change it. At FortiusMale we're dedicated to create an online community for males to help each other improve and get better.

I would want to propose 3 things in life that contribute to one's happiness, namely, having good interpersonal relationships, setting lifelong goals and thirdly, keeping oneself fit and healthy.

Having good interpersonal relationships may seem easy for some guys, but believe or not, it is the hardest of the three described above.

It's not about having friends, its about making friends.

In this world, it is important to make friends. As the old saying goes, "No man is a an island" and indeed we make friends every day in the course of our lives. It is important to have a good mix of female and male friends around you. In times of need it is often surprising to find a friend rendering his/her help, and that is often very heartwarming.

It is also very important for us males, to find the correct partner in life. Finding the correct female in your life, will find her supporting you in all aspect of your life, especially in your career. I quote from a famous Chinese saying "behind every successful man lies a woman (who would give him her support)". The woman behind the successful man, takes charge of domestic affairs while the man can concentrate on his work. In life, where failures are inevitable, the supportive woman sticks with her man and continues to support him, spurring on to make a comeback.

To begin with, you need to find the correct girl, date her, proceed on to getting married, having kids and creating a happy family. However, usually it is the case of the male not being able to find a girlfriend, less to say, the correct woman/girl whom he can spend his life with. It is not uncommon to hear laments such as "I can't seem to get a girlfriend", "No girl would like me".

Even more shocking to note, it is usually the best guys (in personality) who always find themselves in the wrong end of a relationship. The case is also true for the reverse. The best females always find themselves meeting the "bad" guys, or in another words, the "bad" guys always gets the "good" girls.

What do these "bad" guys have, that makes them so interesting to the female, while the other decent males watches on in jealousy? It can be all attributed to the lack of appeal that such males exhibits to females. In a separate post, which is titled "The Turned-on Button", we will feature a more in-depth discuss why certain males lack such appeal and why certain male have overwhelming of such appeal.

However, to find the perfect girlfriend/mate, it is always important to have a pool of friends, both male and female, to keep your social circle healthy. Besides, having a large number of female friends also means that you will be able to give yourself more options, and thus a higher probability of finding the correct partner for life.

Males friends are also very important. They are usually the ones whom you can count on especially at the work place. The confidence of having the ability to make friends, would usually turn out to be a great boost for one's leadership skills. This is often the case, people who can mingle well and makes friends easily usually are good leaders, when called upon to lead.

Being able to make friends effectively, is a good confidence booster for males, and it often leads to a higher level of self fulfilment. This will in turn lead to happiness. Learning how to have a way with girls is also one of those skills which other males envy. Possessing such skills would give you an aura of superiority over your other male friends, boosting self confidence making one happier.

HAVE GOALS YOU WANT TO ACHIEVE!

Having Lifelong Goals in life also plays an integral part in one's overall happiness. Imagine a life without goals. Would anyone be happy if they were to live without goals? I certainly doubt so.

Setting lifelong goals would mean to have achievable goals and meeting those goals and expectations one set for oneself. Meeting goals and expectations (especially self-expectation) can be a very joyous affair for the heart. Happiness can be realised from the accomplishment of goals and target, one sets for himself.

At FortiusMale, we encourage males to set Lifelong Goals as well as long term financial goals and show how males can alter they psyche, change their mindsets, to help achieve their goals more effectively. HAVING A POSITIVE AND CORRECT MINDSET, is a very important step to achieve goals in life.

YOU MAY HAVE IT ALL, BUT...

Having all the power and riches in the world alone is not enough with health. Health is the most important of all 3 factors discussed. Without health, we will never be able to enjoy the riches and the power.

That's why at FortiusMale, we encourage males to fit themselves physically and mental fit. By staying stronger, fitter, better and healthier, only will you be able to enjoy the fruits of your labour.

Staying healthy, both physically and mentally, we will be prepared to meet challenges that we face daily. Being in the pink of health would also mean you'll get tired less easily and fall ill less easily, enabling you to concentrate better in your daily routine with interruptions.

Keeping oneself physically fit also brings about the benefit of having a good physique. With it, you are able to wear certain fashion which you never could wear. Awareness for the increase in self confidence will definately give you the feel-good factor.

Once you have mastered all the three factors, happiness and fufillment will be sure to follow through the process. NEVER PROCASTINATE! Today is the day to begin. Start by thinking how you can go about achieving these 3 things in your life.

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